Healthy Double Dating Tips & Other Helpful Information

Safe practices before Fourplay

1. Know what’s up

Read our description in the app store so that you’re an informed consumer. If a friend invites you to fourplay, make sure you understand how this thing goes. Check out our Terms of Use and educate yo-self!

2. Play hard to get

Don’t give it all away so fast. Only enter your personal info if you feel we have answered all of your questions. If something isn’t clear to you, reach out to us at with the subject line: Request for Terms.

3. No fake friends

We highly recommend that you team up with someone you actually know in real life. Friends, siblings, cousins, and coworkers are always good company. It’s like mama always said, “never get into a fourplay team with strangers.”

4. Goodbye-STIs

Sexually transmitted infections happen. In fact, there were 1.7 million cases of chlamydia and 555, 608 cases of gonorrhea reported in the United States in 2017.* We recommend that all members get tested and, if necessary, treated before enjoying fourplay. *Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (2018). The State of STDs in 2017. Retrieved from

Safe practices during Fourplay

1. Loose lips sink ships

We work very hard to protect your personal information, so we ask that you please be wise on and off fourplay. Never share valuable information such as credit card numbers, bank information, social security numbers, or home or work addresses with someone you barely know. Also, you should never share your fourplay password with anyone!

2. See something, say something

We kindly request that you report anyone who gives you the heebee jeebees. We want members to be comfortable using fourplay, so this helps us keep both you and other fourplay members safe. Whether it’s on a profile, a message in a group chat, a photo, or any other content, if something is offensive, we want to know. You can report a team by tapping Cold Shoulder in tools >>> Report.

3. Public Relations

Plan to meet your matches in a public place. If you have never heard of the place before, do some research before agreeing to meet there. These days it’s pretty easy for you to vet a venue, so take advantage of your resources.

4. Location, Location, Location

Luckily, fourplay helps keep you safe by dating with a friend. However, we still recommend you go the extra mile to protect yourself and share your location with someone you trust before going on a date.

Safe practices after Fourplay

1. Don’t blow it

No, we don’t mean that...get your mind out of the gutter! Keep your blood alcohol level below 0.08 so that you feel in-control. Give your teammate a signal if you think you’ve had too much. Make sure to keep yourself safe by never leaving your drink unattended.

2. No ridin’ solo

If your teammate had to cancel, take a rain check. Not only is a 2-on-1 awkward, but it also isn’t quite as safe as a double date.

3. Use the buddy system

Leave with your teammate. One of the things that makes our app safe is having a buddy to look out for you. Also, why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free, ya know?! However, if you are not concerned about the purchase of the cow at this time, no judgement.

4. Gone fishin’?

If you thought you were meeting somebody who looks different from who you see in person, well, that’s suspect if you ask us. You should leave a date if a person or team disguised their real identity and tried to catfish you. After you leave you should also report that team to us. You can report a team by tapping Cold Shoulder in tools >>> Report.

Getting help

1. ♪♩Somebody call 9-1-1 ♩♪

But seriously. If you are experiencing an emergency, call the police. If you, your teammate, or your dates are injured, call 9-1-1 or get to the nearest Emergency Room.

2. We’re here for you

For non-urgent matters you can contact us by emailing or by tapping tools in the app and selecting Contact Support. Don’t forget, you can always report a user in the app by tapping Cold Shoulder in tools >>> Report.

3. Other ways to get help:

  • Planned Parenthood: call 1-800-230-7526;
  • National Domestic Violence Hotline: call 1-800-787-3224;
  • Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Hotline: call 1-800-656-4673;
  • National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: call 1-800-273-8255;